Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Calling All Emotional Eaters... HELP! HELP! HELP!

I feel like I am digging a hole and it just keeps getting deeper and deeper. I hate to write this post, because I was doing so good for so long, but since Memorial Weekend, I can't seem to get myself to get out of this emotional slump. This past week has been particularly tough. A couple of friendships that had gone sour are resurfacing, and causing all sorts of emotional frustration. All I want to do is eat the emotions away. So here I am, pleading from all directions. HELP HELP HELP!! I can't go back to old ways, but I also can't seem to pull myself out of this hole that is getting deeper in deeper each day!


  1. Relationships are my biggest emotional trigger. If something is out of sink with a friendship or bad feelings surface I want to eat my feelings away! The only thing I find that works is to get all the specifics out either to a trusted friend/sister/husband or a journal. Get all the crud out. Even if you have to write it out on a piece of paper and throw it away. Write until you feel lighter and have some perspective.

    And I remember some really sound advice you gave us all..."It's only a moment!" It may be a series of moments but right now it's only a moment and it will pass!

    Stay busy and remember tomorrow is a brand new day.

  2. Take that frustration and anxiety and channel it into your running shoes. On days when I'm feeling low, I walk or run while listening to a CD called "Nearer". It's a collection of hymns done with a more modern, kind of folk vibe to it. It's all those powerful messages found in hymns of praise, but with the added bonus of being upbeat and bringing a smile to my face. You can find it on iTunes or check out this link and listen to some clips:

    Sometimes we all need to take a breather from something we've been heavily involved in. That was how the month of June was for me. I was a bit fatigued and overworked with all the tracking, so I just chilled and tried to eat smart for the most part. I definitely had free days more frequently, and I knew I should get back into the blog, but I had to sort out some other stresses in my life before I had the emotional and mental energy to get back into a good routine.

    Just recognize that this is a stressful period and like all things, it will pass. You will not fail just because you hit a rough patch. Just do what you need to do to get yourself in a better place emotionally and you will know when you are ready to hit it hard again with the whole health and fitness thing. Keep your chin up!

  3. Just a thought that came to me after reading Sue's post. Have you tried praying for help? I know that may seem like a primary class answer but He can help. Probably something I need to remember too.

    Changing things up, or doing something different helps too. Go on a hike (if you are looking for someone to go with, I would gladly go. We can get Jennifer and make a morning or afternoon of it:-)).

    We are all here and glad to help however we can. You can get past this, I know you can.

    Remember YOU are an inspiration to me. I wouldn't be having the success I am now if it hadn't been for you. I know you can do this. Best of Luck!

  4. You guys are so amazing! Here I am, just trying to fight through it. Last night I thought to myself, "why do I need to fight through this? I have people available to help me. That's what this blog was made for, right?" You know how you just need some sort of kick in the butt to realize that it's going to be okay. That you are going to get through this? Well you just gave me the words of wisdom I needed. Thanks Jennifer for reminding me that it is only a moment. You are right Sue, sometimes we need a breather so we can come back stronger than ever. And Cammy, what can I say! I better not let you down :)

  5. It's an ironic experience to look back on hard times in my life, and I find myself thinking sometimes, "Why did I let that get to me so much? I wish I'd gotten over all that crud sooner." Sometimes it just takes time to work through something, and in the end give yourself permission to let some things go and tell yourself, "You know, I've invested all the emotional energy I can worrying about that, so I'm moving on to better things." There is only so much in your life you really have control over, and the truth is the only thing you have control over is yourself. You can try to influence other people, and pray for guidance in that, but in the end, it's not your responsibility to MAKE other people think or act a certain way. You can only do that with yourself. And I think that's the magic, wonder, and beauty of agency - reaching a point where you feel that you really can exert control over yourself in whatever aspect of your life you are focusing on. You go girl! And don't be hard on yourself, forgive the past and move on, finding new joy in each day.

  6. Alicia,

    Do some things just for you today:

    Make a fresh fruit smoothie
    Paint your toenails
    Read your Scriptures
    Have a bite of dark chocolate
    Listen to some uplifting or relaxing music
    Take a long walk

    Then do some things for others:

    Take a friend a fresh pineapple.
    Call someone you've been meaning to call and tell that person you love them and are thinking about them.
    Read some books to your kids.
    Put a love note on your hubby's pillow.

    I'm thinking one or two of these will lift your spirits!

  7. I can identify. I have been so involved doing things for others and getting a little frustrated that my projects are not getting done. I helped a friend move every day last week. She was not getting much help and she has MS. I do not begrudge helping, that's what I do best. But I need some time for me. I did get some motivation to sort out. Physically I have been at a low..lots of problems to add to my frustration. I do read all your posts but haven't commented. Just hasn't been a time when I have the glass half full attitude. Sorry to be so negative...I try not to be but just having my pity party so I can move on.